I just want to make something very clear for you fuckers. I am not making humans with my body in this lifetime and if someone wants to change my mind on that, they’re going to have to rape me and hold me captive for 18 years. I’m using really crass language today because there is this nasty tendency (particularly in American culture) to try to use storytelling to have people “change their minds”. I’ve had it with our culture of indirect manipulation. I see right through that “story about this girl you knew”, Susan. LEARN TO RESPECT PEOPLE THAT HAVE HAD DIFFERENT LIFE EXPERIENCES THAN YOU AND AS A RESULT WANT DIFFERENT THINGS OUT OF LIFE. The way we spend the few years we have on this Earth as human beings is very personal (As long as you’re not hurting others – yes the exploitation of labor is a form of hurting others).
I am not afraid of what pregnancy will do to my body. A good amount of women can get pregnant and give birth. That’s not the hard part.
Here is a list of things you may want to consider if you want to make a human with your body and raise it:
- Do you understand the financial responsibilities of being a parent?
- Are you okay with changing your sleep cycles and no longer being able to take care of yourself in the ways you once did?
- Are you okay with changing your life so that you no longer spend most of your time in solitude or at your own will?
- Do you understand the implications of giving birth and attempting to raise a child in the United States or in the country you want to have and raise children in? (ie. Do you know the maternity (and/or family) leave policies in the USA or your particular country? Are you familiar with the “motherhood tax”? – it’s not literal – just sets you back in your career, earnings wise. Please note that if you find a celebrity, wealthy individual, or social media influencer telling you “it’s not that difficult”, remember that the reality of the majority of people on Earth is exchanging most of their hours for living wages – if they’re that lucky. As an individual, chances are you don’t have access to the support systems nor money of the elite or extremely privileged. “So this is how you #hUStlE and #gRYnd to build your business while raising a baby BY YOURSELF!!!!” LMFAO. Once again, remember that the folks that are holding the microphones are not the folks doing the suffering. The rest of society is.)
- Do you have the social support (MORE that a partner) to raise a child? The saying “it takes a village” exists for a reason.
- Can you currently handle your life as is? How is your mental health? How is your physical health? How is your financial health? Do you think that bringing a human into the world will make it any “easier to handle”?
- Do you understand that the being you give birth to (if you choose to keep) will depend on you for sustenance, nurturing, learning, and development? Do you understand you will teach it how to walk, talk, behave – that you will teach it to be human? The physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being of that child becomes your responsibility.
- Are you willing to invest energy to create the kind of environment that children need for proper development while figuring out how to keep the child alive? It all happens simultaneously!
- Do you understand that bringing a human into this world will radically change your life in ways that you may not be able to anticipate?
- Do you understand that parenthood is a lifetime commitment? It’s not just something you can “try out” and abandon?
Accept that there are humans in this world that want to live their lives outside of the confines of “what’s expected”. I think parenting is the most difficult work on this planet.I respect people that choose to take the task on. However, it’s not something that should be taken lightly. You don’t have to take any part of your life seriously – except parenting (if it’s something you choose to partake in).
“Why don’t you mention the bright sides of parenthood?” I’m going to take this opportunity to talk about how much I hate toxic positivity. Do you know why I didn’t mention the “bright sides” of parenthood? There is plenty of cultural propaganda that will inform you on it. “Having a child was the best things that happened to me! I’m in love.” Use Google or the folks that surround you if you want to hear about the positive aspects of parenthood. Looking at the reality of any given situation doesn’t make you a pessimist, you piece of garbage. I’m so sick of this “we’ll” figure it out” culture. This is why taking on 6 figures in student debt has become commonplace, this is why children suffer, this is why we are where we’re at as a society. It is not illegal for you to sit on your asshole for a few minutes to truly evaluate the consequences and/or changes that will come about if you make certain choices in life. Ask yourselves difficult questions and be willing to love yourself enough to be honest about what you can and can’t handle.